Then they're still mad at you and you have to accept that.
[Said kindly, but very firmly.]
Apologizing doesn't mean they have to forgive you or stop being mad. They don't even have to accept the apology. Apologizing isn't for your sake. It's for theirs. To let them know that you are sincerely sorry for having hurt them in some way. I know that it hurts to not be forgiven and to have people mad at you, but you can't control the actions or feelings of other people.
There might be. And you'll have to accept that they feel that way.
[He squeezed her hand to get her to look back up at him.]
But it means you don't have to forgive everyone that hurts you, either. Just be sure if you're not going to forgive them, it's over something really important. Not something small or petty. Do you think you can remember that?
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[Said kindly, but very firmly.]
Apologizing doesn't mean they have to forgive you or stop being mad. They don't even have to accept the apology. Apologizing isn't for your sake. It's for theirs. To let them know that you are sincerely sorry for having hurt them in some way. I know that it hurts to not be forgiven and to have people mad at you, but you can't control the actions or feelings of other people.
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So there might always be people who don’t like me or keep feeling mad at me?
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[He squeezed her hand to get her to look back up at him.]
But it means you don't have to forgive everyone that hurts you, either. Just be sure if you're not going to forgive them, it's over something really important. Not something small or petty. Do you think you can remember that?
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But how do I know if something is too petty or if it’s something that I can’t forgive someone for?
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